Live life for who you are. Don't lose sight of yourself or your morals. Being cool isn't about changing who you are, it's about being confident enough to let people see how awesome you really are.
Remember, an original is always worth more than a copy. Be true to who you are and don't devalue yourself. Being able to be yourself and to have people appreciate you is the coolest thing of all. Own your personality. Your bad habits, your good things, your looks, your voice; anything which belongs to you.
Own it and don't apologize for what you belong to you to anyone even if it is bad or you don't like it about yourself. Remember we are all humans and we try accept each other despite all the flaws and qualities we have, why not accept yourself as you are the most important person to you in the world. However, don't be overconfident, or you will come off as braggy and self-centered.
What essentially makes you cool is your identity. Try to find your talent - sports, music, art, whatever. People will notice your passion and respect you for it. You can also learn new skills and meet new people by trying new things.
Practice self-disclosure. The more you disclose yourself the better you understand yourself. Self-disclosure is both the conscious and subconscious act of revealing more about oneself to others. This may include, but is not limited to: thoughts, feelings, aspirations, goals, failures, successes, fears, dreams as well as one's likes, dislikes and favorites.
Don't tell the first person you meet at a party all about your personal life or things will quickly go south. Be friendly, but not excessively eager. Everyone loves someone who is outgoing, but nobody likes someone who is overly excited. Many people find someone who is overeager to be annoying. Try not to force yourself on people. Smile and strike up a conversation, but make sure you know the line between friendly and obsessive. When you meet a new person, take it easy, even if you think you're friend soul mates.
If you're too eager to hang out with a new person, then it might look like you don't have any other friends. You can give someone a friendly compliment, but don't gush to the person about how amazing he or she is for half an hour.
Be a good conversationalist. Everyone loves someone who knows what to say at the right moment. Don't dominate the conversation. You don't need to share a similar story at every setting. Just listen and comment briefly on the other person's story.
Most of the time, it is much better to be sort of quiet and analyze the conversation, enjoying the humor of your friends and being a good listener. Be a good listener. Try to make the other person feel important, but only if you can genuinely.
False enthusiasm will just appear sarcastic. When you listen to people, it not only makes them feel good about themselves but also about you. If you're stuck, remember the golden rule. If you keep the conversation concentrated on others, then people will love to talk to you.
Wait for the right moment to make a comment. If you come up into the middle of a quiet group of people, it is better to take a Tony Stark approach. Be playful! Joke around with other people. Making fun of people is fine as long as you know your limits. Different people have different tolerance levels, so be sure that the people you around know you're kidding.
Refrain from using too many colloquialisms. This may make you appear as "fake" or unable to grasp your respected language. Speak normally, clearly, and confidently. If you feel it is necessary to adopt a more formal register and use polysyllabic words, do so, but do not go overboard or you will appear pretentious.
Finding the right balance in your speech is important to making you seem intelligent and somewhat sophisticated in the presence of your peers. Use humor. Cool people know how to use humor to ease any situation. They don't get annoyed and angry, and no matter how many bad things happen to them, they can still joke about it. They are aware of others' emotions but don't let bad emotions affect them.
However, it is equally important not to hold back any strong emotions. You should let go of petty things in life, but if you are going through a hard time, don't be afraid to seek the help you need.
Being cool doesn't mean being perfect, and being able to find humor in your moments of clumsiness and discomfort is the defining hallmark of being cool. People will not only respect you for it, but they'll like you for being human, just like them. You can be cool and you can be too cool. People who are too cool take themselves too seriously to laugh at a goofy, obviously silly but funny joke. Don't be that person. Speak up. Observe people who are "cool"; they usually speak confidently and clearly, at a good pace.
They don't chatter rapidly, pause, say uh, um They say what they mean, and mean what they say. Be confident in your word and don't let anyone try to change it.
If you state your opinion and people disagree, don't worry. You said what you felt and people will respect you for that, unless you say it knowing it will offend someone. However, make it count. Don't shout out your opinion just to be heard.
Make sure it's relevant, and be ready to back it up soundly. Keep your "cool". The very definition of cool is being calm, composed, under control, not excited, indifferent, and socially adept. Many times, cool people are those that don't get excited about things, that don't always have to talk, unless they have something cool to say.
Learn how to deal with people. Don't get angry or frustrated. Being cool is natural. It's easy to do. Be confident. Oftentimes, the people who strive the hardest for coolness are sabotaging themselves by trying too hard. People like people who don't try but are still successful. How does that work? One of the secrets of being cool is that, when one is just between trying and not trying at all, things just fall into place. Take a deep breath. Being cool is all about being relaxed and comfortable in any circumstance.
Don't lose your cool. If you feel yourself about to lose your temper, or burst into tears, or lose control in any way, take a deep breath and excuse yourself.
Stay calm. Don't use bad behavior to get attention. There are many people who take up smoking, drinking, bullying, and other bad habits. Most often, this comes from negative reinforcement. After doing something bad, a person may be "rewarded" with attention. It is easy to misinterpret attention as popularity, even if it's for doing something wrong. If you want to be cool, you need to know your limits.
You should never substitute negative attention for really being cool. Most of the time, the people who have bragging competitions about law-breaking and bonging beer do not fit into the category of cool. If a group of people doesn't like you for who you are and the lifestyle you've chosen, move on.
Don't do drugs. You want to be like them. You wish to absorb all their good qualities like a sponge. In short, cool people are those whom you want to be like. However, the people who you think are cool might be ordinary to some others. And those whom you see as normal may be heroes to someone else.
So how can you find out who is really cool? Observe people. They understand the significance of staying under control when circumstances force them to burn out.
They also know that the situation might worsen otherwise. Doing hard tasks simply using their smarts is their strength. They bring out the best in you by showing trust in your potential and encourage you not only with their words but also with their actions.
They strive to take you at a greater level. Real life cool people always believe in enhancing the potential others have by leading them. Instead, they just keep hoping that everyone prospers.
They help others rise by inspiring them. They might suck at other activities sometimes, but the skills which they master are unquestionable. They always nail what they do. They may not necessarily be perfect, but they give their best. All thought leaders are rebels by nature. What matters the most to them is working hard and going on regardless of what others think of them.
They create an aura around themselves. They choose wise words which pierce your mind, they make you tumble with their humor and tell stories which touch your heart.
They can almost step inside your mind while sharing and make even the simplest of things look wonderful. Real life cool people know how to express themselves and create a touch that lasts. To them, simplicity is a virtue. They stay connected to their roots and have a mindset which wishes for the welfare of all. Humility is what makes them lovable to others. The more they achieve, the more they understand the value of struggles, victories and the presence of others.
The person who sweats hard and works passionately for his dreams is always attractive. When you see someone who works hard, you find his dedication to his job cool, and then, you wish to be like one. They know their success is based on hard work, persistence, and execution, but they also recognize that key mentors, great employees, and a huge dose of luck also play a part in their success.
That's why they're humble. That's why they ask questions. That's why they seek advice. That's why they recognize and praise others. They don't focus on highlighting how far they've come -- because they're too busy thinking about how far they still want to go.
Top Stories. Top Videos. Richard Branson. Getty Images. I'm not cool. I'm as average as they come. But I do know some cool people. They've done awesome things I don't know about. They just think life. Seeing a famous person, even at a distance, is oddly fun.
Can't explain it; it just is. Besides: Life is not the zoo. So don't treat other people like it is. They constantly try to prove something -- to themselves. They enjoy personal achievements, but they really enjoy seeing other people succeed. They see money not just as a reward but also as a responsibility. They're entrepreneurs -- whether in fact or in spirit.
People with an entrepreneurial mindset ask a different question: "Why not me?
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